{"id":11567,"date":"2024-03-17T11:31:01","date_gmt":"2024-03-17T09:31:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/?p=11567"},"modified":"2024-03-17T11:31:01","modified_gmt":"2024-03-17T09:31:01","slug":"not-wishing-happy-birthday-on-facebook","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/not-wishing-happy-birthday-on-facebook\/","title":{"rendered":"Not Wishing Happy Birthday on Facebook"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"span-reading-time rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\"> &lt; 1<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minute<\/span><\/span><p>Years ago I wished everyone &#8220;Happy Birthday&#8221;. Almost every day I would wish two or three people a happy birthday. Eventually I noticed that all the wishes were ignored and I stopped. I stopped because facebook went from being a place where we could connect, or reconnect, with friends that we had not talked with, for a year or two. When well wishes were ignored I stopped. <\/p>\n<p>People got into the habit of saying &#8220;thanks for the wishes, everyone&#8221; and that was it. There was no attempt to reconnect, to get news of how things were going, of wanting to meet once again or anything else. It was just a hundred &#8220;happy birthdays&#8221; rewarded by one &#8220;thanks everyon&#8221;. <\/p>\n<p>In such an environment wishing happy birthday has a cost. We make the effort, and it is ignored. Why have a reminder of birthdays if people don&#8217;t give a duck? At least some people block posts onto their wall so we can&#8217;t wish them well. This is more honest. <\/p>\n<p>I think having multiple conversations throughout the year is more interesting. I don&#8217;t think we should wait for a birthday to speak with people. We should do it more often. We should do it when it&#8217;s not expected, when it has value. We should aknowledge people on the other 364 days per year. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"span-reading-time rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\"> &lt; 1<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minute<\/span><\/span>Years ago I wished everyone &#8220;Happy Birthday&#8221;. Almost every day I would wish two or three people a happy birthday. Eventually I noticed that all the wishes were ignored and I stopped. I stopped because facebook went from being a place where we could connect, or reconnect, with friends that we had not talked with, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11413,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"activitypub_content_warning":"","activitypub_content_visibility":"","activitypub_max_image_attachments":3,"activitypub_interaction_policy_quote":"anyone","activitypub_status":"federated","footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[20,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11567","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-observation","category-tech-related"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11567","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11567"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11567\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11568,"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11567\/revisions\/11568"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11413"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11567"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11567"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.main-vision.com\/richard\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11567"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}