Routine Happiness

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Today I'm going to write about happiness, and specifically about routine happiness. During the pandemic I noticed that people with children all looked happy. There is a simple reason for that. Children don't understand what a pandemic is, so to give them a feeling of normality you distract yourself from the pandemic with children. The result is that all the parents I saw were in their own little happy world. I noticed that parents were laughing, happy, going to parties and more, ignoring the pandemic, despite having the most to lose.

I didn't have children or a spouse, so I had to find happiness from another source. For months and months I was desperate for zero COVID to be reached but eventually the inhumane head of Switzerland decided to ignore common sense, and that the vaccine was enough. This act doomed me to solitude, because it meant that COVID zero would never be reached.

I value my health, so I still mask to this day, when I am indoors. It makes me both absurd and consistent. It makes me absurd because I'm surrounded by people who are happy to live in COVID denial. They are happy to ignore the inconvenient truth that COVID can result in Long COVID and long COVID can last a lifetime.

I really suffered when I saw that COVID was a new disease that people wanted to make endemic so I had to change where I got my happiness from. That's when I learned to derive happiness from moving forward, of having a daily routine. My routine is that I write a blog post every single day. By doing this I spend an hour or two being mindful, thinking of topics, and taking the time to elaborate on them, as if I was having a conversation with someone.

The second part of that routine is the daily walk. It is almost always an hour and a half, whilst listening to podcasts or audio books. The third part is to spend an hour or two each day studying IT related topics. Recently I have been practising with the provisioning of Linux systems on raspberry pies. In theory once you've set up a system you know how to do it.

As I have learned, through playing with Nextcloud you provision the machine, you get it up and running, but then you find that it can only be accessed via one wifi hotspot, not the other. You find that the device overheats as you try to sync 19,000 pictures from a mobile phone. You also find that you need to adjust the folder permissions so that the phone app can create folders to organise the photographs you're sending from your phone to your Nextcloud instance. Finally you find that it's better to use your old mobile phone for these experiments because you can leave it plugged in for hours, or days as it syncs.

You also find the need to learn about cooling, how to plug a fan into a pie, and more. You also realise how noisy that fan is so eventually you turn off that Pi instance.

The point of routine, and working on projects, is that it helps you forget that you're lonely and isolated, so you don't feel lonely and isolated. This is an emotion that people with family lives never experienced for real. People who are not alone think they feel lonely, but they haven't been alone during a pandemic, for months in a row. They will never understand.

Due to the pandemic requiring me to redefine my sources of happiness I derive happiness from reaching my daily goals, not seeing people. People put my personal goals on hold.

Back in 2006-2007 I was working on my dissertation for a few minutes a day, every single day, seven days a week, for months. If I didn't spend five minutes every day on it, I couldn't sleep. I needed to move forward with that goal. What amused me in this scenario is that I really enjoyed the process. Other people called it "The D Word" because they had not invested as much time, over as long, as I had, so they were panicked. I was happy.

The point is that I'm happy to see people, once I have reached my personal goals, either for that part of the day, or for the entire day. If I don't work towards my projects because I'm with people, then I feel unhappy, until I have reached my daily goals.

Once I have reached my goals I am happy to be distracted by other things, but only once I have reached my goals, not before.

And Finally

If I see people spontaneously I am happy, but if my presence is required I am miserable. People love to say that we can always say no, but we can't. We can't say no. "I don't want to" might be a valid reason for a child, but not for an adult. Mental health is a valid reason but I don't want to play that card, despite it being the real reason for me not wanting to do something today. I will burn over an hour of petrol to see people who a few days ago said "don't come over unannounced. That message is the reason I don't want to do a chore today. I don't like being told I'm unwelcome, and then told to go a few days later.

There is nothing to gain, by saying no, because I have a favour to do nearby anyway, so it's absurd to say no, but after today I will take a break from driving to that location. Last month I drove over six hundred and eighty kilometres, not for work, not for pleasure but for a favour.

Last time I went up I left the electric car, because I had no intention of going back up. I want my life to stop being absurd. The last five to six years have been absurd. I want my routine to stabilise once again, so that I reach my goal of feeling employable again, but I want to work remotely because I am not a friend of COVID.